Bubba 9/7 AMPS 85 Grandson photo

9/4

Good Morning L ,B & L ~

Status Quo with the Bubster. He is holding since I reduced to 2 drops.

Forrest is hanging in there too. Seems like his appy has picked up a bit........yeah!

OT : I got to spend 2 hours with my grandson and his mother yesterday. Rachel brought him to my house for the first time. I hadn't seen him in 4 months! If it weren't for Rachel, I would never get to see him. sigh. He will be 2 years old on my birthday on the 19th. I was in my glory! Can you tell??

 

Beautiful. Hope you spoiled him rotten.

 

That is just sad.

He is precious. Good looking lil guy

 

Bobbie, he is precious !!! Grandkids are truly gifts ❤️ What is his name ? Sooo cute

 

AHHH

 

Soooooo precious,so glad u got to spend time with him, Rachel u rock for bring him!!!! Grandkids mean alot to us

 

Great photo!

 

Awwww....just awww....

 

I sure try to on the limited visits.

 

It is very very sad that my son is behaving the way he is. But, when addiction is in the picture...... it's all so sad.

 

His name is Henry Hudson Yingst. He was named after his mother's grandmother's maiden name. Recently, I discovered doing my genealogy that Henry was my paternal great grandfather's name also.

 

What an awesome name Sending hugs and prayers to both you and your son. Adult child problems are such a heavy burden for a momma’s heart ❤️ Special momma love to you , Bobbie

 

Thanks Beth!

 

That is such a painful burden for you to carry, Bobbie.

 

Love this!!!

 

It's so very nice to put a face to the name!!!

 

It sure is Kris, lots and lots of tears. I have to pretend that he lives in another state rather than just 50 minutes away so my heart doesn't completely break.

 

Oh dear, dear friend . I had no idea but am well aware of how addiction can destroy lives. And not just the one who is the addict. Hubby is clean and sober for 5+ years. I will pray for your son and the entire family.

 

Thanks Lizzie. Addiction is horrible. My best friend's son is in prison right now for drug trafficking, heroin and fentynol to support his own addiction. He sold some fentynol to another addict ( a friend of his) and his friend died of an overdose. David has manslaughter charges on him and will be incarcerated for life if the manslaughter charges don't get dropped.

I went to his preliminary hearing and to see him removed from the county van with hands and feet shackled and to see what it did to his mother ........I am crying now reliving that moment. It's a vision no mother ever wants to see. ugh.

 

❤️❤️❤️❤️

 

Happy to hear you were able to spend some time with your grandson!
Good Bubba and Forrest report today!

 

Yes it is Bobbie. Addiction is an awful disease. Please know, remember, understand addiction is a disease, not a lifestyle choice :-|

VeRy handsome little boy and very pretty mommy !

 

Henry Hudson. That is one cool name! He's a cutie.

 

I'm in the same place you are with my stepson. He lives less than a mile from us, but he hasn't talked to his dad since Father's Day and before that, Christmas. He's only 19!

Awesome to have a face to go with your name!

 

Glad both kitties are doing well. Glad you got to see your grandson. Sending prayers for you and your family.

 

Additions are tough. Maybe one day there will be something more that can help adjust the brain on this + therefore the mental health.

That is a fabulous happy photo and it is wonderful to meet you Bobbie . All smiles.

 

It is tough. My son is 40 years old and it goes to show you that when addiction is in the picture, chronological age is not significant. It is my son's choice too for staying away. He doesn't want to get honest with himself , yet..... I am always hopeful. I hope your stepson will come around, life is short and we all need all the support we can get.

 

You are his Mum.

 

OH Bobbie! Such a lovely family - and such a tragic situation. Been there done that...hate to say...my son went thru all that when he was in his mid teens - in and out of rehab several times - and thank God - finally beat it - and other than some of that Mary Jane stuff - which he is honest about - no other drugs/alcohol...and he's gotten on with his life; now 42 and my grandson is 20! Your grandson is ADORABLE! I remember when...I befriended his mom (they never married) and to this day we are very good friends and I'm happy that she was able and willing to share her son, my beloved grandson with me so I am part of his life and watched him grow up into the fine young man he is today - no problems like his dad...so you never know how things will work out. I'm sending prayers for your son - it's never too late - but they have to want it worst than anything (as I'm sure you know) He's missing out on the most important relationship in the world - the one with his son - and his mother...hope he sees the light before too long. I'm so very thankful my son did...grateful every day for him because now he's supportive and caring - and I don't know what my life would be like without him. Prayers and hugs across the ether for you dear Bobbie!

 

Bobbie, great pic!! Everyone looks very happy

 

So much love to you and your whole family, Bobbie!

 

Thanks for sharing your story. The more I open up the more I realize that there are so many of us with this sort of heart break. I am so glad you had a part in your grandson's life. It's so important and such a loss to me and Henry!

My grandson does live with his dad and mother. It's my relationship with my son that is fractured. ( not my choice )

Lots of prayers and Reiki are sent to the situation.

Godspeed.

 

((((Bobbie)))) I am so sorry you have all this going on in your life. That is really tough!
It's a beautiful photo of the three of you. Henry Hudson looks a lovely little boy. I hope you can find a way to have an enduring relationship with him....it is so important for both of you. Can you write to him?
It is lovely to put a face to your name too!

 

Great Picture! I know just how you feel. My son moved away 2 yrs ago with my only 2 grandsons. It broke my heart.I'm alone now. ( I'm in illinois he moved to Texas!) I miss them so much.My 3 yr old grandson told me on the phone, I don't ever see you & I'm forgetting about you.
Cry myself to sleep many nights! They lived with me for a while & when they left I can't even describe how it hurt.

My heart goes out to you.

 

The GS is a darling! I hope circumstances will improve so you can see him more.

 

What a beautiful photo! I always love to see your gorgeous smile and your DGS is a cutie!

 

Wow, Bobbie; sorry to chime in so late, I am so far behind in my studies, I can only come here to read and not have time to respond very often, though please allow me to share my comment as it hits too close to home. btw, A great photo!!!

Keep praying, God will find a way. My son's friend came to live with us for 9 months after being a heroin addict for 7 years, he was 23 years old, he was 16 when he took his first heroin shot. 11 years of my messages to him were deleted by his grandmother, afraid to lose him after he spent an entire summer with us after moving from NY to VA and he begged me to adopt him. Instead, after that summer, he was told that I didn't want him. Losing all hope drove him further into addiction. (As a child, our home was his haven, he called me mom and I always said he was one of my own, so he grew up as part of our household until we left NY and moved to VA). After almost pulling the trigger several times, he prayed to have an angel sent to him so he wouldn't end his life. Miraculously, 20 minutes after 1 such occasion, my VM was given to him by his sister - before his grandmother had a chance to delete it. I had no idea this was happening, just wondered why he never returned any of my repeated calls.

Long story short - I brought him to VA and - I don't allow drugs in my house - period. He went through severe withdrawal - on his own, as he refused to go into rehab as he wouldn't be able to get a job if rehab was placed on his record. After 40+ hours of research, I learned that the age when taking the addictive drug heroin for the first time, (in his case, 16 years old), it becomes the age that his mental state he will be in for many, many years, as the drug destroys the cognitive portion of the brain. His reasoning stopped at the age of 16, he is now 27. Before learning this, I would tell him many times he was acting like a young kid, not realizing that it was his true mental capacity and he was unable to reason as an adult.

I don't know when your son started on drugs, but it may be that he does not have the capacity to reason that he must stop - to save his life. As was told to me, " I had no way to stop it, I couldn't - even if I tried, nothing was more important than getting the fix, I lost total control of my body, I stole from anyone, it didn't matter". Bobbie, please don't stop praying - yes, it is his choice to stay away, but right now, he has no way of controlling that choice, the drug is all too powerful right now. Do Not Take It Personally. The drug is too consuming, so he hears and see nothing - except for the fix. As difficult as it is, Let him be where he needs to be, he is going through his life lesson right now; intervention will only work if asks for it himself. All we can do is pray. Thank God he has you, a beautiful wife and a child to pray for him. Don't let anyone judge or condemn him, just allow him to be there. Pointing fingers incites anger and guilt, pushing him further into the addiction. Without fingers pointed at him, he will learn to judge himself so he can ask for help. This is hard, I spent many, many hours every single week watching him cry and heal, letting him relive his pain and recount the harsh judgment from others and how he couldn't stop. Your son is aware of what he has/is doing, he just can't control himself. His wife and child would benefit from your support, hopefully, she will come to see this, let her know she is not alone in this, so both of you can support each other. I will pray for you, your son and his family. sorry for being so long-winded, it just hit close to home when I read your situation. Take care Bobbie, one day at a time!

 

Carol, thank you so much for sharing your story. Your son's friend ( your surrogate son) is sure lucky to have you in his life. I hope that he is doing well still.

I will never give up hope or trying to see my son. Even though I am constantly being rejected by him. It hurts a lot but I do realize he is not well. My son's addiction is to alcohol. He is a high functioning alcoholic in the business world, but a disaster with interpersonal relationships. Henry's mother is not married to him. They do live together and I just pray she has the strength to endure his addiction. He refuses all help. sigh.

Thank you for your prayers and I will send them your way too.

 

Ah yes, he is still doing well, and still off the heroin, 4(?) years later.

I have known a high-functioning alcoholic and it is even more difficult, as on one end they show responsibility, yet on the other hand they have lost control within the call of the alcohol. It is difficult for your son to see you as I am sure he knows he is hurting you, but alas, the alcohol wins every time.

Good, as it should be! Just let him be where he needs to be, he has to learn his life lesson and you are clearly learning your life lesson of being able to accept him unconditionally and THIS is soooooo cool to see! You're a great bean and a great mom!! Glad to know ya' Bobbie!

 

Bobbie, I hope that your son will someday come around. It does happen, even with severe alcohol addiction (it happened in our family) and it is a thing of joy when it does. I'm happy that you get to see your grandson, even though not as often as you would like. That's a great picture!


Deputy Bubba, keep up the good work in the lagoon.

 

Gorgeous!

 

(((Hugs))) to you, Bobbie. ❤️
Handsome Henry Hudson! He's adorable!