Discussion in 'Feline Health - (The Main Forum)' started by Critter Mom, Sep 17, 2016.
I am glad that you have found a beautiful resting place Mogs! That's important to me also!
Are you able to think of it as a special sacred space where her body will be embraced by Mother Earth?
And have you thought of any little things that you might like to bury with her? Perhaps there are some special or personal things you could put alongside her?
Agreeing with Eliz's suggestions above. I've done just that with my two, along with a little handwritten note...
Mogs, is this place fairly near where you live? You may want to visit the spot to help you feel closer to Saoirse. My two are buried under the apple tree in my back garden where I can go and talk to them sometimes... Bittersweet, but that's the way I like it.
Do tell us more about this spot if you can.
Very much so. From I found the place it immediately felt 'right' - somewhere beautiful and serene, in keeping with her beautiful spirit and her nature.
I laid Amadán to rest beside the Atlantic ocean and it has always helped to know that somewhere of such outstanding natural beauty as his little body's resting place. It is a relief and a comfort to find somewhere beautiful and peaceful for Saoirse's, too.
I'm all over that like a bad rash. I wanted to add one of her little dinghy beds in and her nip toy but I can't leave anything with her that's not biodegradable. I'm going to give the vets a lock of my hair for her in the morning. It seems pitifully inadequate.
Thank you for this, Diana! I left a little note with my Danú. I'm such a mess I didn't think to do the same for my Bonnie. I'm going to make a little note for her.
"Do not stand and my grave and cry ....
I am not there - I did not die ....."
Bon courage Mogs
That looks truly beautiful, Mogs.
Are you able tell us when the burial will take place? Is it tomorrow?
It is a beautiful location, so peaceful. A lock of your hair would be a wonderful gesture, and maybe have the vet save a lock of Saoirse's hair for you as well. Your physical beings will be together always as will your spiritual souls.
Oh, what a beautiful place!!!! Fitting for Saoirse!
In this one post, you've already said everything you need to say to each and every one of us Mogs, so don't feel like you need to reply to each person individually. We are a family here....we always have been. Everyone who reads your posts knows how much we mean to you....Just as you mean so much to each of us.
One thing I did when I lost one of my soul cats was I planted a flowering plant next to her burial spot in the yard. Every year that plant has the most beautiful flowers and reminds me that although most of the year it looks like it's gone, it always comes back to be even more beautiful each year.....so I know it's never really gone....it's just preparing for it's next amazing life
I wonder if they'd let you do something like that for her? I know they have certain wildflowers on the property.
Such a lovely setting. And I like the lock of hair idea, a lot. Might I suggest catnip?
These are very characteristic images of the sunsets that caress the shores at Ammie's place ( the light, the colour and the mood are quite extraordinary) and the song captures the feeling of the Atlantic; as majestic and powerful as his beautiful, magnificent Spirit:
Same here. A good friend gave me a lovely white rose to plant in Tom's memory and it still flowers every year. And each spring, a mass of primroses and forget-me-nots surround the area... How appropriate is that...
Mogs...If you don't mind could you tell us the day and time of the service. Since we can't be there with and for you, I, for one, would like to be able to have a moment of silence to remember you and Saoirse as you lay her to rest.
Saturday or Monday. I hope it's Saturday; we Paddies like to deal with these things before they have time to hit us (a social custom for which I've been profoundly grateful in the past).
Thank you Mogs. When you have the day and time, please let us know. I am sure there are many of us in your family here that would also want to pay our respects, from wherever in the world that we are. We are with you and Saoirse in spirit, if not in person.
Yes do let us know, Mogs... We could all light a candle at that time... How wonderful...
With a heart and a half, Mary Ann.
I'd love to have a wake for her.
I'd absolutely love that!
ETA - it would be such an incredibly comforting thing to hold in my mind and heart.
Hey this is a great idea, Mogs. Think about a way you would like for us ALL to join in a "virtual" wake and we could do that... Something appropriate of course to celebrate Saoirse's life. I am going to a funeral in a couple of weeks' time for a lady who was larger than life - we have been asked to wear bright coloured clothes and get our nails manicured and polished in rainbow colours (her trademark) and we will eat Cornettos (her favourite food). Sorry to go OT but just an example of "appropriate".
I left a lock of hair (and my dolphin pendant) with my father, too.
Catnip's a great idea, too! Saoirse loves catnip.* I could put some in a little muslin bag for her.
*(Can't do past tense - far too painful.)
I think lighting a candle is a wonderful idea. A world wide memorial for Saoirse. Even if we can't all be there for the service, we can still be present in spirit. And lighting a candle is the universal sign of respect for one who has passed.
This gets the Mogster Seal of Approval. It is so important to celebrate the life as well as grieve the passing; if the former were not wonderful then the latter would not be painful.
Do you all have even the slightest idea of how wonderful you are and how great a privilege and extraordinary a blessing it is to be cared for by you? I truly hope so.
Maybe we could all share memories and tell stories. Maybe songs and pictures?
Needs some thought and a bit of planning perhaps...? And you could possibly start a separate thread to ask peeps for any further ideas...? It would be an incredible thing to do.
Yes ...a special thread dedicated to Saoirse. If you have pictures of your beautiful girl as a little one and through some of her more memorable times....her favourite toys and foods, the sort of music that she found soothing...tell the world all about your precious Saoirse so that we can form pictures in our mind to hold and share. A celebration of her life.
I would, too, Mogs. Please let us know.
What a wonderful idea!
More pics ...
I forgot to mention; I've got the option to reserve a plot for myself beside her ...
It would be lovely if we could all share stories of our loved ones - 'go with the flow' sort of thang.
That is perfect!
Isn't it just! My soul is at peace about this place.
On Saturday, in honour of Saiorse, I shall go into the backyard and sprinkle massive amounts of catnip on the graves of the 3 cats buried there. This will also bring the neighbourhood cats to the site in her honour.
What a beautiful, peaceful place!
Hugs and Prayers to you. I am so sorry for your loss.
Oh, what a thoughtful and beautiful tribute! My heart is warmed at the thought of this. Thank you.
I just had another look at the Google Earth bird's eye view of Michael's Wood; if you rotate the image through 180 degrees it's heart-shaped ...
Mogs, what a lovely place for Saoirse to rest! And how wonderful that you can reserve a place for yourself, next to her!
Forgot to tell you all ...
Yesterday morning my doorbell rang unexpectedly. I went to the door and I was presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers for Saoirse and myself - from our vets. I was blown away ...
I am so glad I moved to them from the previous practice; for all of my frustrations with them at times, I know how much they genuinely care for their patients. It meant so much to that they were so good about coming out to the house to treat Saoirse (and they loved that they got to know her in her normal, calm and gentle state instead of just seeing her scared and freaked out at the practice).
(((Mogs))) I'm so so sorry it was Saoirse's time to cross. No one could have done more or tried harder than you did for her. This summer seems to have taken so many of our babies from us. Nothing I can say will help - I know that only too well. If only I lived closer so I could just give you a hug where words aren't needed. I know Rosa will have been there to welcome Saoirse to Rainbow Bridge along with so many others.
Mogs, I would love to light a candle when you lay Saoirse to rest. She has meant so much to all of us here and you have meant so much to us as well!
Mogs, I still have dried miniature roses from a bouquet sent to me by my vet when my precious heart kitty passed on in 2010. They sit by her urn and I know she is always with me. Perhaps you could get a little shadow box and keep a lock of Saoirse' hair, some dried flowers from the bouquet and a small toy, collar, tags or whatever feels right. It would provide you with a little altar at which to visit with Saoirse whenever you want to when you can't get to the woodlands. The spot you have chosen for Saoirse is absolutely beautiful. I'm sure Saoirse is smiling down on you in approval!
Dry, heaving guttural sobs today.
I hope you feel those across the ocean!
I'm desperately sorry to hear about your beloved Rosa ... ((((((April))))))
Thank you, MO2F. Helps.
I've been away on vacation, catching up and at this moment, I'm shedding many tears reading all of the heartbreaking, yet lovely posts about beautiful Saoirse and the incredible love you had for your baby. Rest in peace, dear little one. What an incredibly wonderful Momma she had in you, Mogs to have loved her SO much. My heart goes out to you. ((❤️)) Hugs and thoughts are with you...
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Mogs, I hope that the sincere love of these dear people will give you shelter from the storm. Please know that you are in my heart. x
My heart sinks and my stomach feels like a rock every time I walk into the living room and I can't see Saoirse's little face looking up at me. I'm so grateful for all your lovely messages and hugs - I can't tell you how much you are all helping me because when I come here and find messages waiting for me it helps ease the agonising sting of my girl's absence. Thank you all so much for thinking of me and taking time to write a little note or send a lovely picture.
I can't sleep properly and I've got that awful PTSD 'tired and wired' thing going on again. I feel absolutely shattered and I've gone all cold and shaky again. Plus I'm crying but no tears come and that's worse than having rivers of tears running down my face. The day has been one of alternating waves of utter anguish and disoriented unreality.
I had major aggro getting my Rx for sleep meds today and that made me even more tired. It is a relief to know that I can knock myself out tonight and have a little respite from the pain in my heart for a few hours. I have to keep going for the next few days for Saoirse. My baby ...
Thank you all so much for being there for me. It would be so much worse if I had to go through this all alone.
I will be placing Saoirse's little body in Gaia's arms at 17:00 BST on Friday afternoon at Michael's Wood. I am praying the day will be dry but overcast.
I have ordered a bouquet of white roses and baby's breath to be placed in her honour and as some bit of a sign of how deeply she is - and always will be - loved by her oh-so-lucky but heartbroken mama.
I love you with all my heart and soul, my little Bonnie Munchkin.
Oh Mogs... You are incredibly brave you know, much more than you realise.
We will all be "there" with you on Friday... Maybe you or one of us could start a new thread on Friday morning, "Let's Light a Candle for Saoirse" or similar, to ask all your friends here to do that at whatever their local time is v BST?
Hugs to you... you are doing so well.
Oh, if one of you could do that, Diana, it would be wonderful!
You wouldn't say that if you were standing next to me, Diana; I'm either sobbing, shaking or in a complete daze. If it weren't for all of you and my friend, Graeme, helping me I think I'd be sitting catatonic in a corner somewhere. I'm doing the "One foot, one paw" ... but this time it's just a very lonely foot ...
I'll happily take it on board to do that on Friday morning, Mogs, unless someone else beats me to it... I don't mind, it doesn't matter who it is.
Yes, you will be in a daze I think but also you will know that you are taking another step on your journey... No-one is saying it will be easy and we all completely understand what it will be like for you... Remember, you will be able to come back here to your FDMB "home" and we will all be here for you for as long as you need.
I've been collecting her whiskers for years (after they had been shed, of course!). I keep them in a little heart-shaped box.
I'll be there (here). Friday at noon (EST).
Oh Mogs, I am so saddened to hear of Saoirse's passing. I can not think of anything to say that seems adequate enough. I have been away for a few weeks, I I am so sorry. Please, if there is anything I can do to ease your pain. I will be at this board on Friday with everyone else. I will light a candle for your sweet Saoirse. Much love to you.
@Cathie and Shaak Ti -
Thank you for all your prayers for my beautiful baby ... It has been such a comfort and reassurance over the last months to have her on your List.
Feeling really lost today. Meds helped with some sleep but it is crushing to wake up to not being able to wish my beloved girl "Good morning!", to reach out to fuss her and see her beautiful little, loving face looking up at me ...
I want to hold her. I want to feed her ...
This is the time you let the happy, good memories comfort you. Close your eyes and picture and feel the love that will exist forever. The spirit always remains even when the physical being cannot be seen.
It's too soon for that, Mary Ann. Reeling too much ...
This time last week she was sat in the kitchen at her testing station, happy as a clam and waving her paw at me to hurry up with getting her lunch ready.
I can't get over what's happened ...
One of the hardest times for me when I lose one, is feeding time. Seeing their spot empty while the others are eating. We all feel your pain Mogs, and wish we could spare you at least a small portion of it.
I will be with you and Saoirse tomorrow
Every time I see her little dishies and her timed feeder trays I fall to pieces.
Before that agonising trip on Saturday night I made sure that there was a clean dishy in the rack ready and waiting for her to come home ....
Big hugs Mogs!
Wishing you peace.
Absolutely know how you feel, Mogs. I've been there and I'm sure others have so we know the pain... It's indescribable. Can you put that sort of thing away out of sight, for now at least? Or can your friend Graeme help you to find somewhere still there but less visible...? Only you know what feels right.
Mogs, our little ones become such an integral part of our daily routine that when they are suddenly not with us, it turns our world on end. Things like dishing out food, that had become almost mindless tasks, become poignant reminders of just how much a part of our lives they are.
My little heart girl had the cutest habit of sitting at the edge of my kitchen padding her front feet waiting for her food. For months after she departed, I caught myself starting up a conversation with her only to turn around and realize she was not there. Or was she? I like to think that was her spirit, telling me she was still with me and would never leave me. I can still see her there doing her little dance as plain as if it were yesterday. As heartwrenching as those memories are in the early days and as hard as it is to believe, they do become cause for a big smile in the future.
I will be with you tomorrow, sending you love and support and lighting a candle for sweet beautiful Saoirse.
I, too, will be with you tomorrow. These first few weeks are the hardest to get through before your heart learns how to function without our loved one. Looking back losing my little Pom, Kosmo, in December it was those first 2 weeks that I was a basket case. Eventually my heart learned how to live without him.
Those morning feedings were turmoil, opening the crate, listening for his clicking toes, letting him outside, listening for his tiny bark asking to come back in, but now, 10 months later, my heart fills with love thinking he is playing at the Rainbow Bridge waiting for his "girl" (my daughter) to join him.
Angel wings are lifted aloft by love. That means Saoirse is the highest flyer of them all.
Here's to your sweet girl. To the beautiful life that she had. And to the boundless love that she was so fortunate to experience in this life and the next. May she be with you always.
Thank you all for your messages and for sharing stories of your little ones. Been trying to reply here for a couple of hours but head's all over the place and I'm sort of numb and dazed - and so, so wired and tired ... can't concentrate on anything. I am dreading tomorrow...
Will try again in a while ...
I can't tell you how grateful I am to all of you for your messages and to have you to talk to. It's all that's keeping me going.
The owners of the pet food store wondered why I was buying a huge bag of catnip ("You must have a catnip junkie." "How many cats do you have?"), so I told them. They thought a worldwide memorial was absolutely lovely. It brought big smiles to their faces and they insisted that the catnip be their contribution.
That is AMAZING. ❤️❤️
(((((((((( Mogs ))))))))))
Words are so inadequate at a time like this. Too many of us know the bond... the loss... the pain... the piece of one's heart that is torn out forever when we lose our precious kitties. My heart hurts for you. I'm so sorry it was Saoirse's time to go...
The numbness from the shock is cushioning things somewhat at the moment but the lonely road that awaits me after that is going to be so hard.
Thank you, Jill, for your message - and the much-needed hugs.
I can't move anything belonging to her, Diana. As hard as it is to see all her bits 'n' pieces I'm dreading the thought of them not being there any more. It would make things feel more empty and the awfulness more real. (The OCD makes even small changes very difficult, too.) I had the opposite problem with Amadán - everything was communal and I didn't have any memento to hang onto that was 'just his'.
I guess I'm just going to have to let things pan out in whichever way they do ...
Lúnasa does that when she's eating. So did Danú. It really is the cutest thing to see.
I still keep picturing Saoirse in her usual spots but I long to see her little face looking up at me. This evening I got 'our fleecy blankie' and fashioned it into a shape like hers (including a crude attempt at giving it ears). I've got it resting against my leg for a bit of comfort. Probably sounds nuts but it's soft to the touch and it's helping a little bit. Some of the time I feel like she's here but I just can't see her ...
(((Mogs))) I do know what you mean. It's hard either way - to see the things still there, as they were before, or to see an empty space. You will know what you need to do as time goes on, and new or different thoughts come into your head as to the "best" way to cope. The healing process, if you can call it that, will be a long road but you will find your way to cope with the different aspects of grief as best you can. That's all any of us can do. Someone said to me once - take one day at a time, and if that seems an eternity to get through, take one hour at a time or one minute at a time... Those shorter times to get through sound more achievable, and gradually those shorter times become longer times, and your grief becomes less all-consuming... although it will always be there. It will be a part of you, and that's ok.
HUGS to you, dear Mogs.
It is good to hear that things are a bit better for you now, MO2F. It is a great thing that the love always greater than the pain. I hang onto that thought very hard.
Gosh! It really touched my heart to hear this. Next time you visit the pet store please will you pass on a huge "Thank you!" to them and also a blessing for them and all of their loved ones from me and Saoirse.
I'll be there with you tomorrow as well, Mogs. When I have lost a love kitty, I always got such comfort from my other cat, who also needed me for comfort. How is your civvie doing through all of this?
I will light a candle and throw some catnip in it at the appointed hour - we will all be there with you
Take care of yourself tomorrow, Mogs. And give your friend Graeme a big thank you from all of us.
I, too, have a collection of whiskers I have saved from Peek-a-Boo. I also have a number of claw sheaths and a clump of fur. I guess the strangest thing that I kept was the makeup brush "eyebrow-groomer" that I would use to brush all the dried food off of his face with when he slept. Cleaning his face with a washcloth was never tolerated. With that tongue and hardly any teeth...you can't imagine what his face looked like after eating. I never washed the little brush after he passed and put it in a travel toothbrush holder for safekeeping.
"See" you at Michael's Wood tomorrow Mogs...see everyone else there too. Spirit Peek-a-Boo and I wouldn't miss it.
Mogs..... Count us in
Dre, Rico and I will sit with a beautiful white candle in honor of your beautiful girl.....what a beautiful place for her body to rest.
We are all with you Mogs
( I also have saved hair from each of my beloveds over the years.... )
Mogs, Squallie and I and the rest of my crew will be there with you on Friday, bringing you love and strength. (((Hugs)))
Mogs, I will hold you and Saoirse in my heart today. I will be at work so I can't light a candle but know that I will be praying and holding you close today!
There is a thread that has been set up for everyone who wishes to honour Saoirse today at 5:00PM BST time
EVERYONE: Let's light a candle for Saoirse
Separate names with a comma.