GA Tuesday 29th May : Tyler &M. Final condo for this forum.

Saturday 26th May . The day Ty said no more

I was not really sure where to write this but as Ty was a Lanctus laddy I felt it right to finish his journey in here.

On Tuesday 29th May 1997 my Mum died. It was all quite sudden & unexpected. A mis-diagnosed brain tumour. She was younger than I am now. She lays at peace in a wood.

On Tuesday 29th May 2018 my Ty was cremated. I didn't choose this day . I will pick up his ashes next week & they will stay with me until the day we will both be flung to the winds.

What is poignant though is the day and month. I struggled to come to terms for quite a while after my Mum died. Me & him were booked for a 6 month travel period . Been in the planning for a long while and so it had to be done. I took that grief with me around all the world & back again.

I'm not given to flights of fancy & the like but do feel that intuition is an oft ignored sense that we all have. Gut feeling.

I always felt that Mum sent Ty to me. She didn't of course. Her bones were lying under a young tree in a wood. Her being, simply a part of my memories & who I am. In any case she didn't even like cats or dogs but my mind found comfort in the notion. So it was odd & also fitting in a way to suddenly realise that Ty would be cremated on the same day & month she died.

On Tuesday 29th May I pottled about hither and thither not really sure where or how I should be.
Sit and look out to sea? Nopes.
Climb the hill to the Centre of New Zealand as a marker? Nope.
Pound the sand a mile one way and a mile another as an emotional release ? Nope.
Wallow through a million photos? Definitely nope.

In the end I settled on buying some Tyler coloured violas & primroses to plant in small pots and containers. I settled on just being where we lived together . Home.

I may put together a pictorial tribute of an exceptional cat with a exceptional life. Or I may not.
I'll see you all around the place even though it will be odd without my trusty prince by my side.

Thank you all for holding my hand.

 

You are loved.

 

I was so afraid of this, reading your last condo. We've, most of us, been right where you are now, and not much can be of comfort. Hugs for your grief to take its course and release you soon.
Tyler was a terrific cat, and perhaps, in some way, he still is. I hope you two meet again.

 

Love you and Ty, was gutted when I read your post the other day. Just gutted and no words. Interesting how those dates work out, believing in fanciful things or not, Ty came in to your life exactly when you needed him and you were there exactly when he needed you.

I hope it’s some comfort to have this place where Ty was a popular guy and his memory lives on in the crazy extended cat family you’ve made here. I know it can go either way and hard to be here too. Just know you are always welcome and wanted here. Love, love, love to you.

 

Sending prayers.

 

I’m so sorry. I lost Max and my mom within a month of each other. Be kind to yourself.

 

I am new to this group but this has still shaken me. I am truly sorry for your loss and sending lots of love your way. May time heal you

 

Elise @tiffmaxee is so right. Do take care of you. I remember feeling completely exhausted. Planting something in the garden seems a perfect tribute.

 

One name for violas is heart's ease--may Tyler's flowers bring you that.

 

Tonight, the Full Flower Moon, Ty will be celebrating with all of our GAs at the Bridge at the same time his pals in L&LL are having their full moon party. At this magical time of the month, they will be able to communicate through the veil. The Circle of Remembrance will be extra poignant tonight as our kitties will know that Ty is safe and "in good paws" at the Bridge.
Many hugs to you, M. You are family here and we hope you will visit L&LL from time to time.

 

I'm so sorry for your loss. Prayers for your grieving heart. The love never dies. 19 plus years was wonderful to have.

 

I am so sorry for your loss, fly free Ty

 

I am so sorry... I was so very choked up reading your last condo I could not even give condolences. I regret that now. There are things we will never understand in our lives and some of those things seem to defy reasoning and logic. Take solace in those things, because it is the things we cannot explain that bring our hearts unto our front doors. I wish I could heal your hurts from afar, but this I cannot. I can send all my love and light to you.

 

Dear M. This is so hard for me - I feel like I've lost one of my own. Tyler was so loved, and will always be remembered here. You are also very much loved, and I hope you will find yourself able to stop back in and visit us whenever the spirit moves you. I do hope you put together the pictorial tribute to the exceptional Ty and his exceptional life. I think he had an exceptional bean, as well.

Sending you love, peace and strength, my friend. Wish I could do more.

 

I'm here. Ty is here.

 

No matter how long they live, it is never long enough. Ty will always be with you, just as your mum is.

I hope you will visit from time to time. You are part of our family and we like keeping family around.

 

He will always be with you, heart, soul and mind

 

When a cat leaves us, I find they take with them the slice of life they shared with us. Cats are the silent (or not-so-silent) witnesses to our lives, with us, watching us, by our side whatever we go through. Our personal history shrinks and sometimes even collapses when they die.

I wish you well, growing flowers and healing tears.

 

My heart aches for you....Luci and I sending pawfuls of prayers and hugs across the sea to you our friend...and to Ty across the Rainbow bridge - may he fly free and land softly ...

 

Holding you in my thoughts ...

 

This odd place on the web has become more than a community. It is family. It is composed of people, caregivers, who understand that our companions are not, "just cats" as the unenlightened would like to believe. When our beloved companions tell us it is their time, we carry their memories protected in our hearts. We become better because we know the trust that was earned carried with it the responsibility for another life -- a life we could not take for granted.

Many of us who have made the journey here do not leave. In whatever way we can, we pay forward the lessons learned. Members of this family may come and go. Those who step away are always welcomed back with open arms.

 

❤️❤️❤️❤️ Take good care of yourself and sweet Phil in these coming days . Prayers that the healing comes deeply and grief does not linger . Your Prince is an exceptional boy and the two of you are exceptional kitty parents . Holding you both close in heart and prayers .... Ty and you will never be forgotten ❤️❤️❤️❤️

 

So sweet...and so true...we all, unfortunately, face this inevitability - hopefully not too often. I remember all of my babies who've gone ahead...fondly...and the love we shared...

 

It is never easy saying goodbye to such a loyal companion. His friends from the board will be there to greet him and he will forever watch over you. FD really brought me so much closer to my boy and in some ways I cherish the memories of strength throughout his treatment.

Please pop in if you need to vent or just share feelings with others here who have sadly had to face the same situation.
If you need some time away(I did), we will all be here when and if you need a little support.

Fly free Tyler and watch over your caring bean.

 

Sometimes on a bad day I would log on and see I had a bunch of alerts along with a whole bunch of likes. More than once they came from you.
Thank you for holding my hand as well.
Most of us have been through this over and over again and a silly question might be "Why do we do it".
My answer is How can we not do it
Take care of each other and maybe one day another paw will reach out to you, the paw of a sugar cat perhaps. On that day you'll know we'll all still be here.

 

Thinking of you guys today

 

Theresa and I want to see some pictures of Tyler. She followed his story too - a Prince of a kitteh.

We all choose this path. I think it is easier to be home too. The hardest part for us is picking up the ashes - when you realize it's not a dream anymore and they aren't coming back home. I'm sorry your sweet kitteh left. I wasn't there in NZ with you, but I miss him too.

 

Same here, I couldn't help but share this with Cynthia.
Maybe it will help you to share with us. Whenever it feels right.

 

And more hugs! I made a cairn in a grove of trees on my property for my beloved Sug. Each month on the anniversary of her passing I place a rock. The next month another rock and continued to the one year mark to which I place a large round rock at the top. It is her monument and gives me a sense of peace when I look at it.

 

The first week is done. The next week comes & ever onward , forward .

I will share some pics soon. At the moment I have 20 years of tears to shed. Not just tears of loss you understand but also smile tears of our wonderful shared life together.

Ty's ashes are not yet ready for us to pick up so we are not complete. I am hoping for Tuesday.

 

I'm so sorry it was Ty's time to go to the rainbow bridge.

 

“We who choose to surround ourselves
with lives even more temporary than our
own, live within a fragile circle;
easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps,
we would still live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only
certain immortality, never fully
understanding the necessary plan.”

― Irving Townsend

 

{{{M}}}
In these days since your Ty went ahead, my heart and soul have been with you but feelings to words a mess. So, please forgive my bumblings and delay in writing.

Civie Azalea was just over 20 when she went ahead barely two months ago, also with the whisp of a peaceful breath and in early dawn.

As my old friend, the vet I worked for many years ago and from his orphanage Azalea and many of our clowder came..
“...There is such a beauty in old cats, and usually older dogs. There is [also] that feeling that when they have made this passage with peace, it is both a peace that they have entrusted us with and showed us the way....and, in doing so, that we might envy to be in our own mortality....”

Sending all the love, light and gentleness of inner paths to bouy you in these times. Ty was a prince indeed, and you his wonderful, loving, lyrical mum.

❤️Much love and hugs,❤️
Sina and the tribe

 

{{M}}
Wishing you more joyful memories and less tears with each passing day