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Remaining cat "lonely" or "possessive?"

Discussion in 'Lantus / Basaglar (glargine) and Levemir (detemir)' started by Mocha aka Cold Play, Jul 18, 2016.

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  1. Mocha aka Cold Play

    Mocha aka Cold Play Well-Known Member

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    I do not believe my vet but I thought I would ask him about the 4 paw declaw adoption idea (to which he said there is no medical concern) but that there may well be compatibility issues since both adults?

    I described Latte's behavior only some. But, she went thru the seeking phase of our beloved girl, then the grieving phase of curling up in places her scent was in a fetal position. Then the crying phase (which she never does) every time she came to see me.

    Then for the last 2 months, she has gone into what I believe is lonely. She almost always wakes me at midnight for attention (I am asleep or close) and again at 3:00 (the time I fed and gave insulin) and again around 6 which was another busy time when had both of them. She was only eating food if I put it down for her right then because she always ate together the last year with Mocha. That has resolved but she will still often seek to eat at 3am if she still has food elsewhere because she wants to have some food but also attention.

    So again last 2 months, she comes to where I am many times a day and sits right near me but not in content (she never sat by me and she is not a lap cat) but she sits til I look at her and she wants me to interact with her, play with her. It is not just once in awhile in a day.....but almost always I can't do something with her for awhile and then come back to try to be on the computer and in a MINUTE she is back at my feet. The only other main place she goes is a place near where Mocha always was in a chair. She is sitting under a piano bench near it because there is no chair around. She is seldom in a relaxed pose but usually the reserved pose where front paws turned in and under and legs under. She is not in pain.

    Vet hears about the following and says she is possessive. I do not believe so. She used to "follow" Mocha around this way. I firmly believe she is lonely for a cat friend. She loved face to face greetings with her. I just want to make sure I am not totally missing something. If she was possessive, I would think she would not allow me to be around my husband and would be anger issues.

    Also, 3 times in about a month I have found stool outside of the box, 2x in the kitchen and once in a corner around the litter area but clearly intended there. I thought that was strange but has not happened for a few weeks. But, I have noticed urine scents the last few days that have been hard to track down. I just read an article about "lonely" cats that will mark their own scent to "comfort" themselves. This made sense then. Not from anger but because she misses the other cat's scent.

    Hoping to adopt this week a cat that for certain loves 3 other cats in this foster home and she loves to groom them and vice versa. She is 9, about Latte's age. But, I am thinking with the love she has for these also laidback cats, the odds are good they will get along @ least for company.

    I was told by another foster mom of plus 20 years to look for that Key Trait of a cat that wants to groom other shy kitties. I think has to be a kind not alpha cat also but is this KEY to want to groom other cat? Just got word of the foster who has the cat I thought we would for sure go with (but have not met) that she thinks another one she has is best because the cat really is lonely and wants to groom often. My girls never were so buddy buddy to know if the remaining cat would know what to make of it? She has only been in my home and is 9. But, if she really likes nose to nose, chances are she might like more connection with another kind cat?

    http://www.felinediabetes.com/FDMB/...oncern-with-4-paw-declaw.161320/#post-1725156
     
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  2. Carol & Murphy

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    I'm so happy you are thinking about adopting the older cat - but the introduction will be key. Do carefully read the advise from the cat behaviorist you got on a past thread (forget the name) and Jackson Galaxy. You might start by getting something with her smell on and introducing that to Latte - please keep us posted ​
     
  3. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    Yes, I am on board with this and have made the point clear to hubby, who last time opened the carrier right away despite being told not too. This time, I carry her/him in!
     
  5. jayla-n-Drevon

    jayla-n-Drevon Well-Known Member

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    I am sure you know this but keeping 1 in a room letting them sniff under the door is a good way to start the scent acceptance :bighug:
     
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  6. Mocha aka Cold Play

    Mocha aka Cold Play Well-Known Member

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    I did the scent exchange also with pillow cases back and forth.
     
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  7. jayla-n-Drevon

    jayla-n-Drevon Well-Known Member

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    I am sure your on top of this --I just do the door thing to be safe and no attacking....I would do both but I am paranoid :rolleyes:
     
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  8. Sienne and Gabby (GA)

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    I wish I could say there is a guarantee that the cats will get along. There isn't. It does sound to me like Latte is missing having a buddy. If there are other members who have had a "possessive" cat, they may be able to chime in. I do think Gabby was somewhat possessive but she was also a tortie and "attitude" was her middle name. She was not the best socialized of cats, either -- she was removed from her littermates way too early. She liked Gizmo until he became a total pest. OTOH, Gizmo adored Gabby.

     
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  9. julie & punkin (ga)

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    I also thought that Anya was lonely after Punkin passed away. She became kind of clingy in a way she hadn't been before.

    When we adopted Punkin, we had another cat, Felix, who was about 2 years old. Punkin was about a year old. They bonded really quickly without any drama. I already described that bringing in 2 kittens for Anya was a mistake, but I do think she'd have been fine with 1. We knew she would want to be the Queen, and I didn't think bringing an adult cat in would be a good idea for her. I have read that females are more territorial than males, but am not sure if that's true. McGee is not happy with all the cats that have come into our house now. When our kids come home and bring their cats, even though they stay in the bedrooms, McGee gets quite bent out of shape.

    It's just going to depend on the cats' temperament, but if I were you, I'd get Latte a little buddy. It sounds like she is lonely and a friend might be helpful.
     
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  10. Sweet Spot

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    I can share a story...hope it helps.....

    We rescued an adorable little female cat years ago (she was 3 years old) desperately in need of a loving home...about 1/3 the size of Spot. All gray, little fuzzball, named Toto.
    Spot hadn't lost a pal, so that is different I know, but we knew he was an "only child" and guessed he would throw a tantrum for awhile, which he did...right on cue.

    What we didn't expect is that little Toto (later nicknamed our hippie, flower child) had no fear. She just put up with his BS and kept loving on him. Eventually, they became inseparable soulmates (we lost her young, at only 6, from a heart tumor).

    The point in our story is that, though Spot was a grouch initially, it was the demeanor of the new cat that made all the difference. She wasn't fazed by his size and attitude and basically made him love her (crawled into bed with him). Then he fell in love with her, too. If she was timid, she may have spent her life hiding under the bed.

    Just a happy ending, even with a cat with attitude, like Spot.

    Wishing you luck...........
     
  11. rhiannon and shadow (GA)

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    please clarify so I know if I read this right?

    Is your intended currently in a foster home?
    If so, that would be ideal because.......
    1) you could get something with that cat's scent on it and bring it home to Latte. See how she responds....
    2) that goes well, then bring in the cat .... keep them separated with a door as suggested.... see how she responds....

    and if Latte isn't happy at all, it shouldn't be hard to take this new one back to the foster home.

    You may be overthinking it all, the real test is taking some action.....


    Shadow was a very possessive cat.
    She was the youngest of three in the household. But from the moment she showed up, she was determined to be the alpha.
    My oldest one got sick ( turned out it was likely FD in hindsight) and we set her free. The second one was my son's cat who mostly stayed around
    him but Shadow would whoop up on her occasionally to remind her who was alpha.
    And that one eventually was set free when her kidneys failed.
    Shadow was also alpha to our dogs as well. Four different ones in succession.
    There was an outdoor cat who found us and she didn't mind him outside but we tried a trial of letting him in one of the back bedrooms
    and if he got out, she would aggressively move toward him.
    He didn't want to be inside anyway.

    And then my son , lonely for his cat, wanted to get a cat but he had to keep her in his half of the house....
    And he did.....
    but Shadow would not ever accept the new one and I was too afraid that this young one would hurt Shadow ( being younger)
    and probably would have .

    So with Shadow, it was not possible. And she definitely fits the description of a possessive cat.



    I don't think yours is being possessive.....
    She wants your attention..... and your company......
    whether or not she wants the attention and company of another cat can only be answered by trying it out.

    After Shadow passed and a few months, I went seeking cats to have more than one again.....
    The first one I got didn't work out.... turned out she wanted to be an only cat and I had to return her to the shelter but she got adopted
    right away the week after.
     
  12. Tricia Cinco(GA) & Harvey

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    I like this idea. I wonder if you got to the point of visiting potential cats, if you could get their scent on something and bring that home for Latte to smell. You might learn something from her reaction. Just a thought....

    We started out with two kittens, littermates we named Max and Minnie. We had only had them a month when I took them out in the (fenced) back yard. Minnie shot over the wall and we never found her. Two days later I learned that she had been hit by a car and some kind soul took her to a local vet. They tried to save her, but she was too badly injured. :( That is what cured me of ever letting my cats outside. Anyway, we brought home another kitten, a calico. She followed Max around all the time, but when he's stop and look at her, she'd hiss. That's when we named her Nemesis. After a couple of days of this, he finally got tired of her and hissed back. She looked startled, but she never hissed again and after a while they became good friends. They didn't cuddle, but they slept side by side on the sofa a lot. When Nemi passed, Max was 10 years old. He seemed kind of lost, so we decided to get a kitten. Enter Minka, who was a 10 week old Siberian, very outgoing and not afraid of anything. Max kept looking at her like he couldn't figure out what she was. She tried really hard to make friends, but he just tried to keep his distance. I think she was too much for him. Perhaps an older cat would have worked out better.

    I guess my point is that ECID. Don't try to over-analyze this. Just use your knowledge of Latte to make what you feel is the best choice, then take the steps mentioned to give it the best chance of success. The kitties will let you know how fast or slow the introduction process needs to go. Good luck, and keep us posted, please!
     
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  13. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    me too, let them play with paws under the door.
     
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  14. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    I met the sweetest 3 yr chubby girl tortie yesterday. But, while so sweet to me as a stranger (face rub, body rub) we are not sure about other cats as this one is fostered alone.
     
  15. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    My only scent experiment was with a foster boy's bedding and she loved on it for 30 minutes with face rubs, scratching it. However, I KNOW that boy is not for her. He is a mess with defensiveness, does not want to be touched. Hissed and growled at me several feet away and the foster agrees he is pretty independent and reacts the same to her sweet kitties. I saw it! So, I think scent is what made me see her need for a friend but does not necessarily mean that scent! Talk about drama.
     
  16. Marje and Gracie

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    I also think it’s ECID and difficult to know. With the exception of once, I’ve always brought kittens in and all but once, they have bonded with the older cats and it’s worked out. I brought an adult cat in one time and my other adult cat chased her mercilessly and she was very, very unhappy. When a friend fell in love with the adopted cat and the friend had no cats, I felt it was best to let her adopt her. It’s the only time I have ever done that.

    When my 21 year old cat passed away, I saw Gracie’s picture and adopted her and the adults were 10, 11, and 12. Two thought she was a pain but soon they were all very tightly bonded. When the youngest passed away at 13 (and he was the one Gracie was most bonded with and would play with), we got Tobey. Gracie hissed and hissed at him at first but within a couple months, they were tightly bonded. Tobey is now also very, very lonely. He’s fine if I’m playing with him or interacting with him but if I’m not, he just doesn’t have that spark he had. We do not want to get another cat but I’m afraid it is inevitable. I thought perhaps after six months, he would be doing better but he seems more lonely every day. We will likely get a girl kitten so it will not intimidate him.

    I hope you find the right kitty for Latte.
     
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  17. Gussie's mom (GA)

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    When I inherited Gus from the neighbors I followed Jackson Galaxy's advice. Initially I kept the door to the room Gus was in closed and swapped cat beds between the cats, fed on either side of the door. Then graduated to a tall baby gate in the door, feeding on either side of gate, nose to nose eventually, and swapping cats in spaces. When they could eat, and sit, and be curious about each other thru the baby gate that came down. Worked well.
     
  18. Kathy and TiTi

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    2 weeks of separation is a good basic time. Hopefully your separating door has a small opening at the bottom, thru which they can play pawsie, sniff, and even hiss at one another.

    Key to your first kitty's acceptance of the new kitty, is that you lavish more attention on your first kitty than you ever have before. Even if that means short changing the new kitty, it reassures your first kitty that she is indeed, first in your heart and your hierarchy. That makes it easier for her to meet and greet the 2nd kitty.

    As to the 4 paw declawed problem - it isn't a problem. I've done a lot of rescue, and it's never mattered. No claws, half claws, all four feet with claws has never mattered to me, to my other cats, nor to the new cat. It's really bad enough that the poor lil cat had an owner mean and dumb enough to do this, it'd be even worse for her, if you worry about it. Trust me on this, the kitty is not worried about it. She's had a long time to get used to it.

    That said, go forth and enjoy your 2 :cat:kitties.:)
     
  19. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    I never had a baby gate....never had a baby but a furry one:p. When we were in our home I had a large screen window that was not in use that I rigged up to separate them. I don't have that anymore because we are in a smaller condo. Other than trying to rig our collapsing shopping carts somehow (have not tried but that is my only thought) I got "nothing." What else could maybe improvise? At least I would think the cart could be used to allow wider door opening for them?

    Since she is clearly more social but does not take any trouble....she just walks away (not even runs).....I think she will adapt quicker perhaps than my Latte but even Latte has grown some strength over the years with Mocha being less welcoming but tolerant most of the time. If you have any ideas because I do not want to cause any discord.:)
     
  20. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    I appreciate the suggestion about time balance. I don't think I heard it exactly as you describe. But, it makes purrfect sense. I will be going over the web info today. Our new baby comes home this afternoon.

    The four paw declaw was taken the day after we saw her and had asked about some adoption questions and thought she was not able to be adopted in the first few days of the shelter taking. She was gone! We were sad.

    I lost out on at least 3 others I felt good about but the one we adopt today is the only one I met and felt "sure" about. Here she is. Calli. The 9 almost 10 drop off from a single family that had her since kitten and "could not take her when they moved out of state." I have not heard a peep from this girl yet. She instantly purrs when I just touch her fur and is not defensive in any way. Her social scale is a little higher than Latte's but there was no sign of alpha or mini alpha in the cat room of about 12. She was ok with being assessible on open cat beds with other cats nearby. Latte would not come out of her cubby when we adopted. But, she went nose to nose with Mocha everyday as long as we had them. Got a good feeling it will take time but we did the right thing for both these precious girls. PICT0216.JPG
     
  21. carfurby

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    What a sweet girl. I hope her and Latte become good friends. :bighug::bighug::bighug:
     
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  22. Gill & George

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    She's a beautiful girl.
    Let us know how Latte and Calli get on.
     
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  23. Gussie's mom (GA)

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    What a gorgeous Kitty! The time balance thing is that I let the other cats spend time in Gus room while I had him out exploring the rest of his new house without being frightened or startled by the other cats. That way they got used to each others scents, and played with each others toys, etc without any unexpected encounters. I think it was important for the new cat to be able to explore and figure out where his safe place was before he needed to find it in a hurry! :cat: It seemed to work for me. Then because they were eating together and familiar with each others scents when I removed the baby gate they barely noticed. :)
    You could use anything that they could see thru after they explore thru the bottom of the door so long as you make sure it can't fall down with a big crash when they are looking at each other thru it! That would be bad! I'm sure the cats will let you know what the best method for you and them is! Fingers crossed they are in fact long lost friends who reunite with no troubles whatsoever! :cat:
    I am SO happy you and Calli found each other! She sounds like a gem of a cat!:bighug:sending you happy new family vines! Here's to a super homecoming!!:bighug::bighug::bighug::cat:
     
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  24. Gussie's mom (GA)

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    Haha, I had to buy a baby gate! I actually think it was a big pet one that I found on Amazon used. It was taller, 48" I think. You can also try propping the door open a little crack so they can see eachother but not get thru if your door does not have a space under it for them to paw greet/ sniff each other. I've never had a baby but a furry one either! I have also found free baby gates in the local want ads where people are giving away things.
    Good luck today with bringing your gorgeous girl home! Hope Latte loves her new companion!:bighug::bighug::cat::cat::bighug::bighug::cat::cat::bighug::bighug::cat::cat::bighug::bighug::cat::cat:
     
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  25. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    I saw mention of a door stopper at a point but I am not sure that would suffice. I have a few of those from before. I have asked a foster cat mom if she has one. She has been doing this over 20 years. Thanks so much for the well wishes.

    Hard to believe when I had my first ever cat (none growing up, no friends had one either) when I graduated college that his sweet life to me has now resulted in saving THREE more? Who knew but I love him for being such a perfect experience to allow more blessings to me and vice versa. :)
     
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  26. Gussie's mom (GA)

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    He had that kitty super power! :cat::cat::bighug:
     
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  27. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    Yes, he certainly did! Followed me everywhere and got him as a kitten...he was often between my feet walking. I could not sit w/o him immediately landing. :smuggrin::D:)
     
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  28. Sienne and Gabby (GA)

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    Kari --

    She's adorable! I love the bit of "chocolate milk" on her nose!! I hope Latte approves.
     
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  29. rhiannon and shadow (GA)

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    What a very lucky girl and she's awfully sweet looking too....

    Hope Calli and Latte will become good friends.....

    one of the things that seemed to get cats to get along is to have one of the string toys , that is , when they get to
    be in the same room later on.....
    something about chasing that toy together.....
     
  30. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    I have a long farily thick braided cord that I used to use with Mocha and Latte. Call one's name and give her that end and then the other's name and her end, worked for them to not but heads!
     
  31. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    Already heard some sneezing in the car. Some sneezing in the house with Cali. I don't want to rush her to a vet.

    But, do I need to watch things they may explore when they are in each other's space with the other out? Do you often have to go the antibiotic route or just give them the 7 days to see how it goes....better or progress?

    Cali could not be a ounce sweeter! I could not adore her anymore but making sure Latte knows she is the top cat!
     
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  32. Carol & Murphy

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    Kari I am So happy you adopted Cali - you saved the life of this sweet girl fingers crossed all will go smoothly
     
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  33. Gussie's mom (GA)

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    i don't know enough to give you advice on the antibiotic, sorry. Guessing the rescue mom you ask for advice would know more than me. Sorry:(
    How wonderful that she is a perfect cat!!:cat:

    I usually just let them explore as they wanted as I knew they were not going to fight as they were not in the same space together. I did tend to keep an eye on the new cat in the new territory but did not hover, just stayed in the same room and spoke reassurances that that was his new forever home.
    I checked back in on the others periodically to tell them that was their new brothers smell, and wasn't it great?!
    Hope it is all going well and that you have a really nice transition.
    Hope one of the other people who do more rescue can help w the antibiotic question. :bighug:
     
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  34. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    What warmed my heart beside the fact that I instantly loved her, was the sincere thanks that the same shelter for Latte had to me for adopting "a senior." I want to thank many here who shared that same choice to bring home a senior. I almost cried after bringing her in last night and letting her into her spare room because I "cannot for the life of me understand" that anyone would drop this gem off. I just can't. My only regret was not being sure when I first saw her picture in early May....because I did not know where Latte would go with preferring to be alone or not and I had to give her time to tell me. But, their "loss" was truly my "blessing."
     
  35. Sweet Spot

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    Congrats on bringing your new sweetie, Cali, home - so happy for you.
    Such a good sign that she already purrs and feels comfortable - that is just how our rescue cat, Toto, acted with us when we brought her home.
    Sounds like a perfect match...perfect new addition.
     
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  37. Gussie's mom (GA)

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    :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::cat::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::cat::bighug::):bighug::bighug::bighug:
    This was the right time, you should not regret the wait, you and Latte had to be ready in your hearts. Calli waited, she must have known you would come for her when you were ready!:cat: I am one of those who believes our GA kitties have a role in who comes into our lives next and when!;) So happy you found each other!:bighug:
     
  38. suki & crystal (GA)

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    So true Kari, she was waiting for the right person to give her a forever home. Cali is adorable and I hope she settles down with Latte and they become firm friends.
     
  39. Mocha aka Cold Play

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    I agree totally! :cat:Almost as if they guide our heart to bring another home and for that shelter cat to bond on the first meeting with us.

    We never even took Calli into the greet room to visit alone with her. Odd for me who met with Latte at least 4 times before adopting her. But it is harder when you are "match-making, at that time with Mocha." :p

    We met Calli only once for about an hour and we were taken in the first touch.

    Thanks for letting me know it was the best how it turned out. Sometimes you just wonder if you could have done more, sooner. But, many cats were taken before we could pursue them.....so indeed she "waited."

    Calli, being from a single kitty home, very well may have benefited from the company (albeit it too much) of about a dozen in a room 1/2 the size of most bedrooms.;) She adjusted to that beautifully in kindness and "comfort." Just perhaps that experience will make her realize that one buddy who wants a friend with her is going to be pretty amazing for her too, after having over a dozen in her space!

    The house has been so peaceful....no hissing at the other by the door. The transition with Mocha & Latte was bumpy because of a bad experience before for Mocha.

    Thankful that Latte is mostly relaxed at this point and returning to her habits :smuggrin::D:):cat:and for her....that is pretty amazing for a "scared kitty" in general. :confused: It is wonderful to know when we "read" what our kitties "need." I find the bond with a pet beyond words frankly. Know everyone here gets that. Priceless they are!:cat::cat::cat::cat::cat::cat::cat::cat::cat::cat::cat:

    Thanks for all the love & support here always.:bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
     
  40. Gussie's mom (GA)

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    Sounds as if all is exactly as it is supposed to be! Circle is completing itself again! I am so happy for you!:bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
     
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  41. Dawn and Peek-a-Boo (GA)

    Dawn and Peek-a-Boo (GA) Member

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    Oh Kari....Calli is absolutely beautiful...I can "hear" the joy in your posts!!! :D:D


    You did the right thing for YOU too. :bighug:

    Welcome home Calli...enjoy the wonderful life that awaits you!! :cat::cat:

    Dawn
     
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  42. julie & punkin (ga)

    julie & punkin (ga) Well-Known Member

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    Congrats on Calli!!! She is beautiful and is going to be so happy at your home. Fie on the people who wouldn't take her along. That makes me mad. But yay for you getting her!
     
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  43. Mocha aka Cold Play

    Mocha aka Cold Play Well-Known Member

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    Callie & Latte are a great companion.:cat: I could not have found a sweeter girl. :D They are gaining trust by the day.;)

    Thanks to all for your kind words to me as I went on this daunting journey and even the assurance from several that adopting an older cat is a great experience.:)

    There was a reason I could not find a match for Latte at the age of 5-7 as I hoped.....Callie was almost 10 and did not fit that.:smuggrin: We love her.

    Mocha still is daily in my heart as a missing piece. But, Callie is a companion for the loneliness that Latte had.

    Thank you:bighug:
    Kari
     
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  44. Carol & Murphy

    Carol & Murphy Well-Known Member

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    Kari I have been wondering how you and Callie and all are doing
    this is the best update - I am so happy for you all
    and so thankful you decided to take a chance on adopting a 10 year old - as I told you when I adopted a 13 year old, I never regretted it. I will only adopt senior cats now
    congratulations!!!!:bighug::bighug::bighug:
     
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  45. Sienne and Gabby (GA)

    Sienne and Gabby (GA) Well-Known Member

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    ((((Kari))))

    I'm so happy for you! And for Cali and Latte. Congratulations.
     
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  46. Gussie's mom (GA)

    Gussie's mom (GA) Well-Known Member

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    So very happy to hear that all is going well with your new addition! I truly think we are helped to find our perfect next companions by our GA kitties looking down on us! They steer the stars to help them align correctly! Sounds like you had some expert assistance! So happy to hear everybody is getting along and that you are so happy. Happy kitties, Happy Bean, a Happy heart! Such a nice combo!:):cat::bighug:
     
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  47. JanetNJ

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    I have 7 cats, and except for the last two who are litter mates, none of them knew each other before. some cats didn't care at all and got along instantly... some were a struggle. Julie is definitely a cat who would rather be the only one. We had to seclude her for several MONTHS, then only let her with the others when we could watch. It took a good six months before there were no fights. The first month she was here she tried to attack my old boy who was just laying down looking at her, and I stupidly tried to protect him by grabbing her, only to get a nasty bite for which I wound up in the ER after my hand doubled in size. lol I thought she was going to have to go, but eventually everything simmered down. One thing that really helps her is having Feliway plugged in. I can always tell when it runs out because she gets very high strung. I had another cat that hid for 3 months and was afraid of the other cats.... now she looks for a nightly cuddle from them and gets along with all of them. The others all acclimated to each other quickly.
     
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  48. julie & punkin (ga)

    julie & punkin (ga) Well-Known Member

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    I'm thrilled that Callie and Latte are doing so well together, Kari. So glad for you to have a buddy that's worked out.

    And it's great to see you!!
     
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  49. Doodles & Karen

    Doodles & Karen Well-Known Member

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    Love the report Kari! :bighug::bighug:
     
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  50. Olive & Paula

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    How did I miss your new kitty:woot:. How wonderful. I hope Latte is as thrilled as you.
     
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  51. Mocha aka Cold Play

    Mocha aka Cold Play Well-Known Member

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    Latte pulled a fast one on me today. They were both sunbathing and I was giving equal attention to both at the same time and both being lying on their sides and heads down on the bed "I thought this is so nice." From out of no where, Latte pulled a smack to Callie's head. There may be some of that jealousy the vet had mentioned after all. But, Callie is the forgiver and moves on like oh well......but there is genuine interest in each other.
     
  52. Olive & Paula

    Olive & Paula Well-Known Member

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    Maybe Latte was dreaming. Glad they are mostly getting along.
     
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  53. Mocha aka Cold Play

    Mocha aka Cold Play Well-Known Member

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    If they can do that with her eyes wide open? :kiss: Something goes on early in the morning with someone growling. I separate then but I don't know what is happening. But, last night was one of only two that Calli felt like she could also sleep in the bedroom that Latte shares with her during the day w/o issue and even only 2 feet apart and both sleep. Go figure? Still, the adjustment has been overall a good one. :D Have a great day!
     
  54. Carol & Murphy

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    very heartwarming story, Kari
    love it
     
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  55. Mocha aka Cold Play

    Mocha aka Cold Play Well-Known Member

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    Thankfully, there is no chasing or fussing @ night now. Just was the 2 times. I am a light sleeper so they would wake me. They keep trying to check the others toes....you know how that goes, the one with the toes....not as happy. But, at least they take turns trying to check them out. :) Silly girls. Calli actually reminds me some of my first adoptee (that set this all off in motion). Never thought I would have a cat and certainly not again after losing him. But, she follows to the kitchen and in the kitchen. I have not had that since him, so at times I have had to stop in my tracks quick. But, she is indeed a gem. Thanks to all!
     
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