Tyler &M : Friday 25th May :

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PussCatPrince - GA

PussCatPrince - GA

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The vet has just phoned.

Tyler is still "pretty flat" to quote . He has not eaten and looking pretty miserable.

He said they can keep him comfortable but had my usual vet talked about prognosis. Both vets are at the same practice.

That one should look at his quality of life. The clear message is that this vet thinks Tyler's time has come.

Phil is away until bluddy well Sunday night. Cannot contact him about this as he has no way to get back .

I know I always say to look at the quality of life over one's own love but I honestly felt that Ty was not that bad and it was maybe a flair that fluids and pain would manage.

I'm in complete shock & of course in utter pieces.

I don't mean to sound dramatic but Phil and I only have ourselves here so there is no-one to hold my hand.
 
Oh , M, I am so sorry :( You know Ty better than the vets and that he is more than numbers . Can you go get Ty and wait til DH comes home so can talk this out together ? Sending many prayers for your heart to have peace and Ty to miraculously heal . :bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
Beth 73 said:
Oh , M, I am so sorry :( You know Ty better than the vets and that he is more than numbers . Can you go get Ty and wait til DH comes home so can talk this out together ? Sending many prayers for your heart to have peace and Ty to miraculously heal . :bighug::bighug::bighug:
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Thank you so much for being here right now.

I managed to get hold of Philip just as he headed on out and before he was too far away & he is going to the vet right now to see Ty .

It is the shock. Ty in no way seemed anywhere near as bad as last time at all. I thought fluids and pain meds for a couple ofdays would perk him up. He has only been at the vets since midday yesterday. It is 10am now.
That vet was saying make a decision within 24 hrs but we can't do that really.

I suppose I don't understand what is happening.

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No-one should hear that over a phone.
 
Maybe all he needs is to come home ..... you know him better than anyone ,you know him :bighug: And that is absolutely NOT something to be heard on the phone ....and then given a 24 hour deadline .... I share your confusion about what they are saying . Hugs and prayers and hand extended across the sea to you , dear M ..... :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:That you and Phillip will know what to do . So thrilled he is able to go to vets office right now . :bighug:
 
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Sending you vines and prayers as you deal with this. I don't think it was the best way to hear info like that, but perhaps you live too far away to be able to travel to vet's office to talk in person? Sometimes that happens. That's how I found out I had breast cancer in Oct. 2010 and it was okay to me to hear it like that because I wanted to know ASAP after the biopsy.
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I felt like someone punched me in the gut as I read the subject line of your thread. I can only imagine how you're feeling.

:bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug:

There's some information found here: Making "The Decision": Help to know when and how... much of which has helped me fairly assess "quality of life"... something which is so important to us for our kitties. Maybe it'll be of some help to you and Phillip.

Holding you close in thought. Sending positive thoughts, clarity, strength, wisdom, serenity... and more hugs.
 
Sending lots of :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:And 3033FE49-5882-4298-ACAD-64EAD693B8AC.jpeg
 
I live a 45 mins drive away and was going in later today to visit.
Phil was on his way through to Civil Defence HQ so was 20 mins away.

He is cancelling the CD exercise . I am very relieved for that but also sad for Phil as this is a once every two year exercise and rather special . His decision entirely. I wouldn't sway him with that.

He will stick around at the vets for a couple of hours and see what is panning out., then phone me . So I shall sit tight.
Phil doesn't know or feel Ty like I do but he is calm and sensible and he wouldn't give Ty one day more or one day less than was right for Ty.

Can I just say thank you all for being on the other end .

@Jill & Alex (GA)
Thanks for the links. Oddly, they are calming .

With Hollycat, I knew when. With this though , the suggestion came out of left field. I had not / do not feel it is now but there again maybe my eyes have been more starry than I knew.
 
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@Jill & Alex (GA)
Thanks for the links. Oddly, they are calming .
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I also found them calming during a very emotional time. The first few times I looked at them... they helped bring clarity. It wasn't time and they helped reinforce my thoughts/reasoning. At a later point... they were again helpful. That time around they helped me in making the decision no one wants to make. It sounds odd, but there was some comfort in that...
 
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....So I shall sit tight.
Phil doesn't know or feel Ty like I do but he is calm and sensible and he wouldn't give Ty more day more or one day less than was right for Ty.

Can I just say thank you all for being on the other end ....
..,,,With Hollycat, I knew when. With this though , the suggestion came out of left field. I had not / do not feel it is now but there again maybe my eyes have been more starry than I knew.
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M, dearest M,
I, too, felt like I’d been punched in the gut when I read your thread title and what vet said.

And I apologize for not articulating well; what you are going through now brings back tears and memories of similar experiences, most recently with Azalea.

Try to take deep breaths, settle your thoughts, in your sitting tight for now.

Your heart will guide you. And what you feel with Ty will be your guide. You and he are the ones who know each other best.

As Beth so heart fully wrote, you know Ty better than anyone. And Ty is fully his whole being, whatever the challenges, whatever the numbers that vets go by. We and our cats are more than numbers and parameters.

❤️With love, hugs, healing and hope, ❤️
Sina
 
You know we've been where you are now. All I can say is if there is no physical pain wait for Phil to come home. The dignity part is something only you will know.
If it helps any we had Nigel at home almost to the end and had quadrupled his BUPE and he still knew who we were and where he was. All we had to do was keep him away from the stairs and I know he knew to the very last that we weren't just keeping him going for us.
I know the three of you are very far away and it's probably already tomorrow there but we are all here for you.
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PussCatPrince said:
Yesterday

The vet has just phoned.

Tyler is still "pretty flat" to quote . He has not eaten and looking pretty miserable.

He said they can keep him comfortable but had my usual vet talked about prognosis. Both vets are at the same practice.

That one should look at his quality of life. The clear message is that this vet thinks Tyler's time has come.

Phil is away until bluddy well Sunday night. Cannot contact him about this as he has no way to get back .

I know I always say to look at the quality of life over one's own love but I honestly felt that Ty was not that bad and it was maybe a flair that fluids and pain would manage.

I'm in complete shock & of course in utter pieces.

I don't mean to sound dramatic but Phil and I only have ourselves here so there is no-one to hold my hand.
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Thoughts - prayers & hugs...:(
 
As Dickson rightly pointed out, because of the huge time difference we will all be out of sync quite a bit.

This belongs in Friday as it was Friday so I will post this here.

Phil stayed at the vet for two hours over the midday period. Was able to chat quickly with vet/vet tech/nurses <--- they prefer to be called nurses rather than techs . He spent a good two hours with Ty. No time limits are ever set here for visits. but there is no overnight staying. Mind you I couldn't fit into those cat sized cubicles anyway.

They put Ty on temgesic and a fluids drip as one would expect . He acknowledged Phil a bit but was otherwise very ....quiet. We both drove back down later around the 4pm mark .

Ty had apparently done my most sought after treasure , a perfect log & a quality wee. He ate a little but not really very much. The vet did a bit of an ultrasound ( it is not his specialty so it would be for my vet who is very skilled in this ) & felt there was no abscess lurking within but of course he could see the thickenings and modules of before. My vet to do an ultrasound when he came in the next day. He had to be home as both his kids are sick right now and one is Downs Syndrome.

Plan over Friday , into Saturday - a little dose of insulin , given the not much food thing. Lessen the pain med a little . Keep up the fluids. The vet gave us a lot of time which was wonderful , as really he was also fitting in the scheduled appointments . He's not my regular vet there but , honestly, he really is very open , honest and personable. He listens too which is a good thing isn't it. I forgive him his blunderbuss telephone call. :bighug:

(...Phil came back. I had to step out )

Nothing alarming in any of the tests as such. High white blood cell count which is not a surprise. 'Course we did cuddles and care and generally got in the way , as you do.

Then we came home and drank wine ----- erm , quite a bit :oops: - and blubbered :arghh: and talked. Well , maybe I talked and Phil had to listen :stop: but he did get to talk too .... a little bit.

That is the end of Friday.
 
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